why do i feel im being prevented from living my life and doing what i want? like emigrating from the uk?
certain people say to me ” you cant do this” and ”you cant do that” & i keep thinking when they say that, that the word ‘ can’t’ has deeper meaning..deep conotations…i think are they, or people unknown to me, preventing me, saying i can’t do what i want? i get really angry when i think deeply about this idea…because ive missed out on life greatly…im a 30 year old borderline personality disorder sufferer, ive suffered alot of abuse, pain, trauma & victimization in my life…& theres gonna be serious problems if people are saying i ‘ can’t’ do something….like their preventing me living my life, doing what i want.
i eventually want to move away from britain..emigrate to canada, the u.s or australia..however i have alot to work on in therapy……when people use the word ‘ can’t’ im percieve sometimes im being prevented from full filling my ambitions..& if this is the case theres going to be major problems, because them and me are gonna collide, me like an oncoming frait train
its just, im passionate about my ideals and ambitions in life…and when they say ‘cant’..i get confused and wonder if they or anyone else is preventing me from achieving my dreams….because i certainly oppose them and wont accept it…no one else would accept restrictions put on their life, its injust, and neither will i accept it.
Why do Americans feel the need to give underage drinkers a criminal record?
live in Canada, and among the aspect of the United States that I find very silly, there’s the 21-year-old drinking age and the ridiculous penalties for underage drinking. This is greatly undermining the opinion I have of the US.
In Canada, the drinking age is 19 in seven provinces and 18 in three. If someone is caught underage drinking, they are either handed a small fine or arrested and detained until the effect of alcohol is over, that’s all. Underage drinkers don’t lose their driver’s license and don’t get a criminal record that would haunt them for the rest of their life. Additionally, enforcement is much less strict, and police often don’t really care about underage drinking on private property.
I think that American policy of giving a criminal record to underage drinkers is unfair and exaggerated, as a criminal record permanently jeopardizes employment and emigration, and will get a person barred from entering Canada for 5 years. You want to visit Toronto, but four years ago you were caught drinking at the age of 20? Impossible, you’ll get arrested and deported at the border. The punishment doesn’t fit the “crime” at all.
In the state of New Mexico, it’s a FELONY to give alcohol to someone under 21, but only a MISDEMEANOR to drive drunk, even on the third offense. Any reasons for that?
Underage drinking and drunk driving are two entirely different things. I take drunk driving very seriously and I even think aggravated drunk driving (over .12) should be a felony.
Canada has a lower rate of car crashes and deaths and far less problems with alcohol use by young people.
What justifications do you Americans have for these criminal penalties for such a trivial “offense” as consuming alcohol under 21?
Just a little side note: unless you live in the state of Mississippi, people in the 18-20 age group are NOT “minors”. The age of majority is 18 (19 for Alabama and Nebraska). You have to say “person under 21”, “underage drinker” or “underager” as these people are NOT minors.
Sure Texas is one of the most lenient states relatively to under-21 drinking, I knew that alreay. However, Texas and Ohio are the only big states to allow parents to give alcohol to their children. In 20 states, including most of the large ones (California, New York, Florida, Michigan, Illinois, Arizona, North Carolina) it’s a criminal offense for a parent to serve any amount of alcohol to their children. Another oddity is in South Dakota, South Carolina and West Virginia, parents may serve alcohol to their children, but it’s still a criminal offense or the under-21 person to drink it.
My point is that any underage drinking related offense that does not involve driving should only be punished by civil penalties, not criminal ones.
im 29, suffer with bpd, have life long ambitions to emigrate to austrailia or southern usa, or canada. i feel?
trapped where iam in the uk, in this flat, like ill never achieve them ambitions and can never leave.
i wanna no, what stops me from fullfilling this ambition of emigration to southern usa or australia?
because if i have to stay here in the uk for the rest of my life, ill drive a knife through my heart
How do Canadians feel about US citizens immigrating to Canada?
My husband and I have talked about moving to Canada. This wouldn’t happen until I was finished with my Masters (MBA) and we were in a financial position to do so.
I am not sure how many Canadians are around Y!A, but how do people in Canada feel about US citizens that immigrate to Canada?
